Grown up I think eveny kid wish they had the ideal family. Mom a dad sister brother a little white dog named oscar living in the suburbs attending the best schools family vacations every summer. Sounds like a good life to me. Now my up bringing wasn't along those line but I really can't complain. My mom was in my life I had a dad and a step dad lots of cousins great friends and great memories. Even with all those relationships the one that sticks out to me is " my mom was in my life". She didn't go anywhere but its not the same relationship it was years ago.
First off let me say I love my mom to death and everyone know I would fight a rock for her but today I don't look at her as my mom I see her as patty . Growing up my mom was the shit she mad sure I had the best of everything I never wanted for nothing. She use to come to my tag football games any program I want to be apart of she made sure I was in it. She cook everyday only time I would eat out if I was with my dad. And she always had me looking good and we look good as a family me her and my step dad. And even though we lived in the project she made it feel like it was the suburbs. I gotta side track to help yall understand my mom and step dad (from now on ill call him POP cause that's who he is) relationship. Now they knew each other since my mom was 9 and they been on and off ever since and when I was born it was the same thing.
Now am not going to put me and my mom business out on front street but for those who have street knowledge you be able to read in between the lines. When your younger you don't understand what adults do because its UNFAMILIAR but when you do understand it you can become so ashamed it can tear you away from a person. There were three parts of pattys life
Were she went from greatness to the bottom of the bottom.
Part:1 I was about 13 and it was the summer before I started high school and me pattys an pop was sitting at the dining room table talking about my high school I was about to attend. And we was talking about me commuting and all the new people I was going to meet from all over the city and outta know were pattys starts crying. Me and pop was looking at her like what's going on. She starts yelling at me telling me to goto my neighbourhood school because I wasn't going to know any body and its so far away. Patty hated change. So one thing lead to another and her and pop started arguing and pop left. Me knowing there same routine he'd stay over his fathers for the night and be home in the morning. The morning came he never came home. Days later he's a no show than I received a phone call its pop. Am like pop when are you coming home and he said am not your mom has to get her act together and for the time being your the man of the house I still love you and your my son call me when ever and ill see you soon. That's the day pop left.
Part:2 A few years have past its just me and patty now things in my life have went from bad to hell. Before I started high school we moved from one project to a worse projects. Our relationship has gonna very sour at this point the only thing we talk about is my transportation to school. Than to make matters worse she quit her job why I have no idea why? I mean she was making good money and I also was receiving my child support check so we was eatting to be in low income housing but all that change when patty changed. Finally I've gotten sick of this same shit with her between the arguing and no support from my parent I did the best thing at the time and that was to move in with my aunt. That's the day she lost me.
Part:3 The summer of 2007 I was in school and working and taking care of myself doing kinda ok and I received a phone call from patty. She on the phone with me crying saying if I don't have $800 by tomorrow she be evicted outta her home and I'm the one who has to come up with the money. Now thing have gotten worse with our relationship and now we barely speak and I was surprise to say the least. Long story short I couldn't get the money and she got kick outta her home along with everything from my childhood was lost (pictures, trophies, awards, etc). The day she lost everything.
Today me and pattys relationship is better than it once was. I still wish I didn't have to go through so much mental stress as a young man maybe our relationship could be even better. She is doing much better than she once was and am proud of her for that. Maybe she'll wake up an smell the coffee but until that day all I can do is pray and hope she gets her act together before its to late.
For one no ones parents are perfect. Not even the suburban families cuz guess what theday goes crazyand kills everybody in the hpuseeven Oscar sometimes himself, or he moves away change his name identity and marries some hoe in Vegas. But anyway yes you n ya mom relationship haven't been great but u still have ya mom she is still around. I felt the same way about my father I still love him but he isn't the best daddy in the world no more he's just a man who helped conceive me and my bro. But your mother didn't leave u. Love her the way she is, that's life things change so does ppl.
ReplyDeleteAs a child the things our parents do can affect us for life. And sometimes in a negative way. Its hard to forgive, hard to forget nd even harder to grow up to try hard not to be like them. its a challenge but its not something that cant be done. Seems like ms. patty put u through alot as a child, but its relieving to see u have begun to overcome the past. Maybe one day u'll be able to call her mom again.
ReplyDeleteEven though you have gone through a lot with your mother you still found the strength to try and patch up your relationship and that shows a lot about you as a person. Everything happens for a reason regardless if we like it or not. Your situation with her could have broken you completely down and you could have been a fuck up, but your a great man doing great things. Don't stress over your relationship it will unfold itself, all you can do is keep praying and God will handle it all :)
ReplyDeleteI have seen this relationship at its highs and at it low. Your both one in the same. Y'all have hearts of gold... but are more stubborn then any body that I know. Y'all ur family...and will do any thing for them. Both are soft as baby food but will kick a whole block in by y'all selves. The one of the most important relationship in are wit your parents,especially the one wit the opppsite sex. They are the first people we fall in love wit. I seen you talk about this other girl but maybe your mom is also the reason you had your walls up. I have been in this same situation and I seen God change a guy I can't stand and wanted him to change for me and my silblings into someone who has become my one of my bestfriends.. Pop is looking down on Patty and she will be fine. No matter what she is still your mother and she have to respect her. She is a wondering a person. And is bless.
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